Health for body and soul

Listen here to the post:01 – Reiner – The paradox of self and foreign concern

Of course we are not all affected by it, but because of our socio-cultural background, it’s a typical pattern of Western culture. Unless we are egomaniacs, but most of us are not fit into this pattern. Our culture pushes us into a role and requires an excessive attention to third parties and a decreased for us.

There are endless examples, but I would like to pick a typical. What happens to our driving behavior when we have a guest in the vehicle and what is driving our behavior when we are alone in the vehicle. For most people it will not even be noticed, but we change our driving behavior when we carry a third person. Our attention is focused on the fact that the passenger arrives at its destination comfortably. So we choose wisely appropriate driving style. We shall make it breaks or even choose a very beautiful route.

Very different if we drive without passengers. How we are doing in the travel time is usually not as important. We are somehow distracted or we confess rubbed of feelings with which we are engaged. Typical is the slightly aggressive driving style, if we have an appointment or are pressed for time. Coupled with poor time management is a common phenomenon to be observed. There are people who even put their lives at risk in order to keep an appointment.

But the loss of self-care is of great concern, not only to ourselves. We are role models for others, and especially for our children. Children see, my father, my mother can not look good for themselves. And they learn this behavior and accept it. But the only concern for us even can bridge up to us in the here and now. Which brings us to the next paradox is: The Zeitparadox. Why have children. Yet all the time and we have the feeling that time is running faster

Let’s start with a generous helping of self-care. Let’s look instead at the clock or the calendar times to the inside: How are we now and what it would do us good? And then we can decide in our adult I like right now, the criteria are. So we make between the social requirements and the needs of her own good balance and always find out more of what we do really well. Tuen you look good!